I am a Type Two on the Enneagram, which means I drive others to distraction by my insistence on helping them. I warn my friends to keep their distance or, 'I will help you to death.' But what the heck, it's the day before my New Year's Resolution to be less helpful kicks in, so I'm going to help you all by telling you what you need to do to be happy.
You see I know a lot of people who aren't happy at all, and I think this is rather a shame. Whatever our destination ( or lack of one, depending on your position) after we quit this existence, there will be no more of what we have now, and really, it's all too wonderful to waste. And you do, you know. Waste it.
Every moment that you spend:
Regretting past mistakes
Wanting something you don't need and can't have
Wallowing in self-pity
Handing out pain to others
Worrying about circumstances beyond your control
Doing things that bring you no joy
Is a wasted moment.
Don't be a villain, or a victim. I think that's what I 'm getting at. If you can read this, you are certainly in the top ten percent of the world's population with regard to wealth. Yes, really! There are THAT many desperately impoverished people in the world. Am I now going to tell you to give it all away and become virtuously miserable? No. I'm going to tell you to start enjoying what you have. Stop a moment, frequently, and allow yourself the luxury of feeling good about yourself. For yourself.
Stop beating yourself up about this and that. I'm sure you could be a lot better if you tried, but, believe me if you don't give yourself time to feel the pleasure of living, you aren't going to want to try. Be glad.
The rest of what I want to say, just to be helpful, you understand, is as well said, with little effort on my behalf, in the text below: Let it help.
Kim & Alison McMillen (2001)
(Sometines, wrongly, attributed to Charlie Chaplin)
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is "AUTHENTICITY".
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person,
even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready
and even though this person was me.
Today I call it "RESPECT".
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to
Today I call it "MATURITY".
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time,
and everything happens at the exactly right moment.
So I could be calm.
Today I call it "SELF-CONFIDENCE".
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do
and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own
Today I call it "SIMPLICITY".
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health -
food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and
away from myself.
At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is "LOVE OF ONESELF".
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right,
and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is "MODESTY".
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and
worry about the future.
Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it "FULFILLMENT".
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick.
But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection "WISDOM OF THE HEART".
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of
with ourselves or others.
Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know "THAT IS LIFE"!
Source: http://khurula.blogspot.com/2009/10/charlie-chaplin.html, acess Dec 16 2009